You can fix ur dysfunctional fam upbringing w/ ur own kids. 

Talk to ur kids every single day.  I move where my kids + grandkids are. 

U must manufacture them. 

Eat dinner together daily

Rituals + Traditions

Take vacations

Don't treat your family like emotional ATMs.

MARRIAGE
Falling in love is easy, staying in love is hard.

Tell your partner you love them every night.

Never raise your voice, except at a baseball game.

Say exactly what you mean.  No one can read your mind.

Treat fighting like exercise.  It will be painful but you shouldn't be unhappy about doing it regularly because it makes you stronger- especially if you do it in support of growth and not contempt.

Tell your partner one thing you appreciate about them daily.

You don’t love someone because they’re perfect, you love them in spite of the fact that they’re not

Marriages most important- companion at love- distinctly not hot!  

We have sky high expectations for relationships but a serious reluctance to work at it.

We want the naturally perfect relationship, but the ones that endure are renewed each morning.  

What we see in people is determined, in large part, by what we expect to find.

We waste relationships. I meet people that have been together for seven years getting an argument and break up. All those shared jokes all those investments all that faith and then you chuck it in the sea, and you begin again. And you might do the seven times in a lifetime. How exhausting. Rather than thinking, I am with an incompatible person you’ve just met another typical human being. If you go off and meet another one in seven years will be best to the same place.